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Melanie // 5 Things I Would Change if I Could do my Wedding Over

I’m so excited to be back and sharing a bit more about my adventure as Maid of Honour for my sister’s wedding! You can read my first post on the topic here.

Today I wanted to talk a bit about giving wedding day advice.  As a Maid of Honour who has been married before I reflect on the things I would change from my wedding day. If you are a Maid of Honour who hasn’t been married, perhaps you’ve seen or heard about some great ideas that you want to pass along to your bride.

When giving any wedding day advice I think it’s important to keep 3 things in mind. 1. Remember it is not your wedding. 2. Be tactful. And 3. Remember it’s not your wedding.

With these things in mind I have tried to share some ideas with my sister about 5 things I would change from my wedding planning and day if I could go back.

1.     Take your time! Before walking down the aisle, pause a moment and take a deep breath, collect your thoughts and relax as much as possible.  That pause before coming down the aisle builds anticipation for your guests and groom and also gives you a moment for reflection or a quick prayer.

2.     Take first look pictures. I was dead set against it for my wedding, but now I wish I had. (My sister doesn’t want them either.) I just think they are so beautiful and having that sweet quiet moment with the groom when you can actually talk, share a kiss and have a moment before standing in front of all your guests seems wonderful.

You can see more first look posts and pictures by Matt and Chera here.

3.     Don’t be afraid to cry. I tried so hard to keep it together at my wedding that I think I sometimes missed out on fully embracing all the emotions of the day. I figured if I started to cry I wouldn’t be able to stop. I think it’s ok to cry and experience the full range of emotions during the day.

4.     Don’t tackle too much! Some things are better left to the pros. If it is going to take hours and hours and cramp up your fingers gluing every favour and making little tiny flower beads, is it really worth it? Printing and making your own invites can be overwhelming. Think about what you really want to DIY and make sure it’s a manageable list that won’t turn wedding planning into a stressful task.

5.     Remember that the day belongs to the bride and groom. There are lots of beautiful traditions or new ways to do things, but ultimately it’s important to make the day your own. Don’t worry about what family or friends will think, instead focus on making the day reflect your love and personalities.

Lastly, if you had asked me on my wedding day and the days that followed if I would change anything from my wedding I would have said, “Not a single things, it was absolutely perfect, “ It took looking back many months and even years later for me to think of this list. So always remember that at the end of the day you will be married to the love of your life surrounded by those who love you both. The rest of it is just icing on the proverbial wedding cake.

– Melanie

“… remember that at the end of the day you will be married to the love of your life surrounded by those who love you both. The rest of it is just icing on the proverbial wedding cake. “

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